Success Is Built Upon Failure

Everyone loves the under dog.

The current Soccer World Cup is no exception. The host nation, South Africa, were the first home team to bow out before the second round in the history of the Cup. But they are heralded as heroes.

Why this heroic celebration of what others consider to be a failure? Because there were the under dogs. No one expected them to win. However, they went out and played with heart and enthusiasm. They gave their best.

New Zealand has now been adopted by many South Africans. They will be cheering for the team from down under because they too were never given a chance. Several of their team are not even full time soccer players, and many of the other teams are made up of professionals all earning million dollar cheques.

Will they win? Unlikely. But while they are still in there is always a chance. And in the mean time we will all celebrate each victory (and anything other than a loss is a victory when you are at the bottom of the table) as if we had won the cup.

We all like a victorious under dog story. Sylvester Stallone made a career out of playing this role in movies.

Why do we cheer the under dog so?

Because we all wish life had turned out a little differently?

Maybe we have given up the fight to achieve our dreams and would rather live vicariously through the actions of others.

Many a successful person is remembered for what they achieved, but we have forgotten the many failures that person went through to achieve what they did.

Don’t stop short when the next action you take could be the one that propelled you to achieve your dreams.

Success Isn’t An Accident. It Is A Culmination Of Failures
~ Dean McNamara

The Public Education Fail

We have a meet the teacher evening coming up next week for our primary school kids. After getting their second term reports we have no real reason to go, although we will anyway. It is good to know what the teachers are trying to accomplish.

The interesting thing about the reports is not so much the teacher’s assessment, they just tick the boxes to say average, above average, or not average. But it was the section where the kids got do their own assessment.

One of my daughters achieved a mostly average report from her teacher, and when it came to assessing herself she ticked mostly “achieving” boxes as well. The daughter is one of the oldest in her class because of they way school system works here (essentially holding her back 6 months instead of pushing her forward). So she is mostly above average in her class. But when it came to the self assessment she ticked all the “excelling” boxes. She has a high opinion of herself!

Combine these results with the book I am currently reading by Robert Kiyosaki:

I may make a few cents if you buy through the above link  🙂

Although it is 20 years old, few lessons have been learned since the time it was written. The school system has become a little less results oriented (although I am not entirely sure I agree that this is actually better for most students), but they still do not teach a child that they can achieve anything they can dream.

I will be interested to see if my optimistic daughter still believes she is “excelling” in all areas as she moves through the school system.

I hope I can teach my children what the school system failed to teach me. And I hope they can learn it at a much earlier age than I learned it.

What about you?

Have you educated yourself so that you can educate your children in a way that they might have a chance of retiring independent of the Government? Or so they might achieve any of their dreams?

Failure And The Fear Of Failure

Fear Of Failure

Why do we fear failure so much?

Many of us a paralysed by the fear of failure. We don’t do anything we think there may be a possibility that we may not achieve.  Nothing is attempted unless their is a better than 98% chance we will succeed.

Is it our school system that drums into us that 98 is an “A” and anything less is a failure?  Robert Kiyosaki  teaches that schools teach us to fail by not encouraging us to learn through failures.  If we get a 98% result we celebrate the 98 instead of focusing on the 2% which is where the learning will occur.

Or perhaps it is that we think everyone is watching and waiting for us to fail so they can devour us like a bunch of piranha.  Where would we get that idea? The media that devours every little mistake made by “celebrities” perhaps?

Maybe it is the people in our lives that like to pull others down because it makes them feel better about the failure that they consider their own lives to be.

What ever the reason we fear failure, if we want to achieve our dreams the fear has to be overcome. We all make mistakes – learning from them is how we move forward.

Living in the fear of failure stops us taking any action.  No action is perhaps the greatest failure we can make in our life.

A tip from Dave Navarro The Launch Coach on his blog post How To Afford Anything:

Remember that every successful person started out with zero clients and zero sales, and many of them began with fewer credentials than you have.

Every successful person took action at one point in their life.  Just like anyone else they had to start from a position of no success at one point in their life. They took action. And probably failed. But they kept learning and moving forward until they achieved success.

Try something new today.